Who Am I?

Hi there!  I’m Regan La Testa and I am so glad you’ve stumbled across my blog!

I often ask myself who I am and find that it is a complicated answer.  I am the mother of three active teenagers.  The wife of a lawyer. A  lawyer myself.  An leadership and wellbeing coach. A daughter. A sister.  A friend.  A volunteer.  A board member.  A fitness and health fanatic.  An aspiring writer.

But I’ve come to realize that none of these descriptions define me or do me justice. I am just me: part badass, part quiet rebel, part insecure, part fun, and a lot nutty.  Most importantly, I am on a journey towards growth and fulfillment.

As a working mother of three girls, life has thrown me some curve balls. Many of which, I never saw coming. Some of these have literally knocked me on my ass and I have had to fight my way out of the darkness. Through it all, one thing has remained certain: I love my girls and my husband.

Family is one of my top values and I have lived my adult life taking care of my family and putting them and other people first.  We’ve dealt with chronic pain, including migraines, an emergency appendectomy and other surgeries, and mental health issues.  Most of this has involved my youngest daughter with her migraines starting at age 7.  She’s now 13.  My oldest daughter also has migraines and other chronic pain.  Anxiety and depression has also made appearances in our lives.

As a mom, dealing with the physical and mental health issues of my kids has been difficult.  It has affected each member of our family in different ways and has affected many aspects of our family life.  I have my own migraines as well.

At times, I have felt lost.  Lacking support of those around me.  I have always said that it is hard for others without chronic health issues to truly understand what it is like to live in constant uncertainty as to how each day is going to go.  Will I get through a day at work without being called to pick up my child?  Will she stay home today?  Do I need to be home with her?

While dealing with the health issues, I realized that my life was not what I expected it to be.  I was a professional woman in my 40’s, questioning my choices.  Was I happy being a lawyer?  Was I happy with how I was raising my kids?  My marriage?  My social life? Was I happy with who I had become?

At times, I think I could say no to each one of those questions.  Some answers were always a “no”.

I knew I had to make some changes.

It started with seeing an amazing therapist.  She tells me like it is. No BS.  Then I met with a career coach.

As time passed, I realized I needed to step outside of my comfort zone and away from the excuses.

I NEED TO DO SOMETHING.

This is my journey.  Join me as I wade my way through my mid-life struggles and come out stronger and better than before.